Is it an invasion of your therapist's privacy if you ask questions about them?

Is it an invasion of your therapist's privacy?

As a registered and professional therapist, I do not find it an invasion of my privacy when clients like you ask me questions about myself!

I don't mind questions. In fact, sometimes I even welcome them because I want you

to feel comfortable around me. And if you knowing who I am and who you are talking

to will help you feel comfortable, then that's grand for me. I will share parts of myself with you if this helps you feel comfortable and if it helps you in therapy for whatever kind of reason this may be!

For me, I don't find it an invasion of my privacy.

This is because, firstly, I have absolutely nothing to hide. And I really must stress that if I knew for certain that you would find it helpful to know about me, then I don't know why I wouldn't share.

Secondly, I feel really aware that I ask you questions hour after hour and learn all about you. Of course, with respect and respecting your privacy too. But if I'm allowed to ask you questions all about yourself, then I feel that you have the right to ask me questions about myself too. And, in fact, it would be a really odd dynamic if after lots of questions to you, you ask me one question about myself and suddenly I'm super cagey and don't want to

answer anything. I feel that is a weird, unfair dynamic.

The most important thing, though, is that therapy is all about you. You are the focus in therapy. So if my clients were often asking me questions about myself and the spotlight was always on me, I would feel aware of this and uncomfortable because that's not what therapy

is about.

Therapy is supposed to be all about you, and it's really important that you know that this is all about you.

Having said all this, I may choose not to answer some questions that people ask me

if I felt that it would be irrelevant or unhelpful or even some things might be damaging to the relationship or the process or the topic, for whatever reason.

But, is it an invasion of privacy? Not for me. I encourage my clients to ask me questions to get to know me if this remains helpful and relevant, and it would help us to build a better relationship as clients and therapist.

So please ask away.

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Written by Lily Llewellyn

May 19th 2025